In her latest offering, Candice Watters discusses the question of whether or not women should "settle" for men who are not the most desirable mates. She makes reference to a quote from an article from Laura Nolan. As I saw that name, I had a thought that can be expressed as follows: "Oh no, I hope it's not that lady that made a comment about older single men being like eggs." I read on ... "Nolan says men are like eggs. If they don't hatch in time, they go bad." Yep, it's that lady. Sigh. Candice. Candice. Candice. Why must you scrape the bottom of the barrel?
Candice goes on to talk about an article by Lori Gottlieb in The Atlantic that basically calls on women to stop waiting for Mr. Right and just settle on getting married (or something like that). Honestly, I haven't bothered to Lori Gottlieb's article, because the oft-repeated swan-song of the aging feminist who bewails her choices has lost its novelty. Predictably, there are plenty of feminists and other kneejerk gynocentrists in the blogosphere, etc. who have taken issue with Gottlieb's essay. "We will not settle!" screeches the peanut gallery of female journalists.
Candice takes more of a middle-of-the-road approach. She thinks women need to be realistic about mate selection, but they do need to have standards. That's good advice--if there are any men that want to marry, that is.
All in all, it's more of the usual from the Spin Sisters. It used to be discontentment with men. Now it's discontentment with the lack of men. And yet, when I read these kind of narratives, I am left with the impression that female journalists think the interest men have in women and marriage represents some of sort of mathematical constant not subject to change--something to be taken for granted. More rearranging of the deck chairs. Even if twentysomething women suddenly decided changing diapers was more rewarding than sitting in the cubicles of the Customer Service department, what would change for men? Unfortunately for many women, there are a number of men who have the temerity to ask that question.
Indeed there are some men who are "settling." Not for the contemporary woman. No, they are settling outside the Anglosphere because they are tired of the stupidity, decadence, loss of liberty, and male-bashing that seems to plague many Western societies. Then there are others who are "settling" for the bachelor life. They find themselves truly "settled down"--unlike their harried married counterparts. So the beat goes on.
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