If I were a non-believing man, I'd probably swear off marriage and family. Why would I honor the marriage vow before a wedding when a woman is not likely to honor it afterwards? I truly believe that most non-religious women in a post-feminist, contemporary society are emotionally unstable, condescending towards men, or both. In this respect, things are certainly not promising for secular men.
So, why are religious pundits worried about the general population not getting married and having children (1 Cor. 5:12)? People have their priorities mixed up on this issue. We should be worried about the souls of our non-churched neighbors, not how many children they bring into a precarious situation. My fellow believers do not seem to be particularly upset that the Canaanites, Amalekites, or Midianites did not leave behind a progeny. So should we really believe that God is now obligated to preserve the legacy of a people that have turned away from him?
What about marriage to a believing woman? Perhaps--if you can truly find a believing woman. Houses of worship may have more females than males, but I have my reservations about churchgoing women. Are they going to church to grow deeper in their understanding of God's will for them, or are they just attracted to the social activities, communal life, and nurturing atmosphere? I fear that religious men cannot find a sure bet for love even among the pews in the sanctuary. Blessed is the man who beats the odds in this respect.
What is the conclusion of the matter? "The form of this world is passing away" (1 Cor. 7:31). "Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord and whose trust is the Lord" (Jeremiah 17:7). It's time for men to stop listening to the siren songs of our culture--even those siren songs coming from ostensibly"conservative," "pro-family" voices. You do not have to seek the companionship of any woman if there is a doubt about it benefiting you.
Turning away from the siren songs can be a lonely road and even set you against others around you. Like David, you might be in a position to declare, "I have become a stranger unto my brethren, and alien unto my mother's children" (Psalms 69:8). But "men going their own way" in this matter is not a crime, nor is it the end of the world. We are are not called to be pleasers of men, but to be pleasers of God (Gal. 1:10). If we seek God and his righteousness, then things have a way of working out for the best (Matthew 6:33).
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