When it so happens that we're the one who wants sex and you're the one who doesn't, we find your refusal to be confusing and irritating. Reassure us that we're attractive and that you love us, but that you just aren't in the mood. It helps to throw out a hint at what's going on--that you're tired, depressed, anxious at work, whatever, says Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., a Boston-area psychologist. That way we won't obsess or be too pouty or aggressive. If we happen to be fresh off a girls' night out liquored up and ready for sex, which you're refusing, tread extra carefully. Horny can change to emotional, crying wreckage very quickly when your girl has a couple of glasses of Prosecco in her.
Let me get this straight ...
1. Drunken man pressures woman for sex? Analysis: Creep, humiliating, exploitation, rape.
3. Drunken woman pressures men for sex? Analysis: If you are not going to perform, then Dude, you better have a good alibi or else!
And the pundits wonder where all the "good men" have gone? "Good men" do not put up with trashy behavior. Yet ... nothing is new under the sun (Amos 4:1-3).